He Dreams About Sex with Other Women. Does He Want to Cheat on Me?
Your man has a lot of dreams about sex – and it’s not always you that he is having sex with. It makes you uncomfortable, and you don’t know what to make of it. Is it considered emotional cheating? Does it mean he wants to cheat? No. But here’s why:
He Can’t Control It
Perhaps he had a dream about having sex with his mom’s friend in a mechanics garage. Dreams while you are asleep are far different from daydreams. Dreams are a collaboration of all the things you saw, heard, talked about that day or the few days before. There is no way to control what is going on in your dreams while you’re in a deep sleep.
He Told You About It
The only way that you know he is dreaming about having sex with other people – is because he told you! If he really wanted to cheat on you with his mom’s friend, he wouldn’t be telling you about it. Any realistic urges to cheat would be fantasized in daydreams which you completely control (and don’t tell your partner about).
It’s Not Really Her
You may feel uncomfortable because you feel like he has intimate details of his mom’s friend, and you feel as though he has cheated. Have you ever tried to tell someone your dream? You try to explain that you were in your house, which wasn’t really your house, but you knew it was your house – and your mom, who actually looked like your cousin when she was 5, but you knew it was your mom… I’ll stop. You get the idea. What I’m trying to say, is even though he had sex with his mom’s friend in his dream – she may have looked like a tree frog. He’s likely never seen his mother’s friend naked, so he couldn’t have seen it in his dream either. Don’t worry about it.
Simply – It’s not Cheating
I am sorry if it bothers you knowing that he is having sex with women in his dreams. He probably has a high libido (that’s good, right?) However, you can’t get mad at him for something that he has no control over. Would you get mad at your kids for having nightmares and waking you up in the night crying? It may feel weird for you, but having a sexy dream is nothing but fun.
Many women have been cheated on once. Some women feel like they always get cheated on, and start to wonder ‘What am I doing wrong?’ When men cheat it doesn’t mean that you have done something wrong. It usually means that the man is simply thinking with his second brain – the one not located in his skull. Nobody can make a man a cheat except himself. However, if you seem to have a track record of men cheating on you, you may want to ask yourself the following questions:
Do I have a ‘Type’?
Take a good look at all the men that cheated on you. Do they have similar personalities? Are you attracted to the type of guy that craves attention? Do you always feel the need to ‘get the guy’ that all the girls are swooning over? Sometimes there are certain personality traits in a man that will attract you to him – but don’t necessarily mean he’s good for commitment. Try to find the similarities in the guys that cheated on you, so you know what not to look for in the future.
Do I Ignore Warning Signs?
Many times women will have a ‘feeling’ that something is not quite right. Because they don’t want to seem paranoid or needy, they don’t look into the situation. However, often your feelings are right. Did you ignore any of these feelings in the past relationships where you were cheated on? If your boyfriend is not doing anything wrong, he shouldn’t have any problem answering your questions.
Am I Too Forgiving?
Sometimes you really want a relationship to work – despite the signs that it’s not. Does he come home late with no excuse? Is his cell phone off when you’re expecting him to call? If you let small things like these go by the wayside, usually for fear it will end your relationship, you are giving him an easier playfield for cheating. He knows that you won’t question him, which makes getting away to see the other woman a lot easier.
If you have a solid track record of being cheated on, it may just be bad luck. However, you may be leading yourself into trouble starting with the guy you choose, and aiding him once you have him. Do some inner reflection on the similarities in those relationships and start working out the kinks.